In this video I’m going to teach you a quick and easy pranayama or breathing practice that you can do in the morning before or after yoga and meditation or even by itself.  It’s called the 9 Clearing Cycles and it’s an ancient Tibetan practice that help wake up your body, increase your vitality and improve your concentration skills.

This is the second post in a series of my personal morning rituals that I’m sharing with you. If you want to live a positive, intentional life, then starting your mornings with ritual is a where you should begin! Last week I shared a morning yoga practice for stiffness that you can do with this breathing practice. 

Though I love doing this pranayama practice in the morning, it’s fine to do it anytime of the day. In addition to combining it with yoga and meditation, it can be part of your other self-care rituals like acupressure massage.  I have a FREE self-acupressure guide that you can download below which will help keep you relieve tension and manage stress. You’ll love it!

Morning Pranayama: Nine Clearing Breaths

In the morning, most of us want to build energy, but it’s important to make space in the body and mind first.  The 9 clearing cycles is a nostril breathing practice that was introduced to me by my teacher Sarah Powers over a decade ago. 

These Nine Clearing Breaths help to clear the energy channels of the body as well as the “poisons” of the mind which impede energy flow and stall our development.  This practice always helps me start the day with receptive awareness which is necessary to keep a positive, open mind, and attract good things. 

Try it! I know you’ll experience the same as well if this becomes part of your morning practice.

Clearing the Nadis and Energy Channels

In this practice, we’re going to be working with the breath moving through the left and right nostrils.  These relate to the Ida and Pingala nadis or energy channels of the body, that circulate Prana, Qi, also known as our “life force” that is connected with the breath. 

These channels help balance yin/yang, left/right, female/male energy, and certain habitual tendencies related to these energies. They serpentine around the Sushumna, the central channel, which contains the chakras or energy wheels. 

You’re purifying these three channels as well as the chakras in this breathing practice.  It also incorporates quick exhalations from the belly which awakens our main power center, Manipura, the 3rd chakra.  This is where you’ll experience a burst of energy.

How to do the Nine Clearing Cycles

Come into a comfortable seated position and make sure your spine is long and lifted.

We’re going to use our right hand to control the breathing for this whole practice. Cross the pinky finger over the ring finger as you’re looking at the palm. Place the ring finger to the left nostril, the thumb to the right nostril. The other two fingers rest at the third eye, in between the eyebrows.

Pre-Clearing the Nadis

First we’re going to prepare the channels by doing a pre-clearing.

1. You can open your airways with essential oils like Peppermint or the Breathe Blend.
2. Then close the right nostril and take five deep breaths through the left nostril.  See if the inhalation and exhalation can be about 5 seconds in length. The left nostril relates to Ida nadi, yin, and one’s feminine nature.  The poison of the mind associated with it is attachment or greed.
3. Then close the left nostril and take five slow breaths through the right nostril.  This relates to Pingala nadi, our yang, masculine nature. The poison related to this nadi is anger.

Nine Clearing Cycles

Now we’ll do the Nine Clearing Cycles working with the Ida first (left nostril), then Pingala (right nostril), and then through both nostrils.  there’s three cycles for each nadi which equals nine.

Each cycle consists of four parts (see video above for demonstration):

1. Inhale through the nostril for ~ 5 seconds.
2. Exhale through the nostril for ~ 5 seconds.
3. Inhale through the nostril for ~ 5 seconds.
4. Exhale quickly through the nostril and with the belly pressing in toward the spine (not so hard that it’s like your blowing your nose).

Let’s start with opening the ida, the left nostril.  Imagine that you’re letting go of your attachments and greed.  This can be the way you’re physically holding on to material items, or old patterns and beliefs.   

With the pingala, the right nostril, you’re letting go of any anger, hatred or aggression in your life.  

Now bring the hand down and do the cycles through both open nostrils, imagining that you’re letting go of any delusion, misunderstanding how life is working around you.

After the nine clearing rounds, inhale and hold the breath in for 10 seconds.  Exhale slowly and hold the breath out for 5-10 seconds. Finish with three slow, even, deep breaths.

I hope you feel more clear, awake, and maybe even more powerful after doing this morning pranayama practice! Please let me know in the comments if this is something you’d like to add to your morning ritual!

This Winter Solstice meditation is a guided, relaxing mindfulness practice that will help you rest in the Winter darkness and renew your being with light on all levels. It’s also an opportunity to let go of what is no longer serving you, allowing space for focused New Year intention, and a rebirth of ideas to achieve your life goals.

Meditation Preparation

To set up, you’ll want to find a place that is dark and quiet.  You may want to light a candle to represent the light inside of you, that creative spark that we’ll be stoking.

Essential oils can help calm your mind and create more focus.  For this meditation I’m using Frankincense and Lemongrass.  Frankincense helps lessen depressed and anxious feelings which tend to be more pronounced this time of year, prompted by the darkness.  Lemongrass helps to clear negativity and uplift your mood.  You can place 1 drop of each in your hands with a dollop of carrier oil and anoint your temples, heart space, and soles of the feet.

Have a pen and paper or a journal nearby where you can write down any insight that comes as we sit.

Also, you can briefly use the acupressure points in my free self-acupressure guide to help you relax. As you release tension, you’ll be better able to focus on the meditation process. You can download the guide below.

Winter Solstice Meditation Instruction

Center Your Attention

Come into a comfortable seated position on the floor or on a chair.  If you’re using a chair, make sure your feet are fully planted on the ground.

Closing your eyes, take several deep breaths, consciously focusing your mind on the present moment.

Exhale out through the mouth to let go of physical tension.  Once you’re feeling settled, allow the mouth to stay closed.

Center your attention by following the movement of the breath. Inhale through the nose. Feel the breath moving through the trachea, filling the lungs, and feel the diaphragm pressing down toward the pelvis, grounding you.  Stay energetically grounded as you exhale and feel the breath moving up and out through the nose.  Watch the ebb and flow of the breath.

Now see if you can make each part of the breath deeper, and longer.  Lengthen the spaces in between breaths, noticing any emotions that come up in the stillness.  It’s common to feel fear when empty, the same feeling that many people have in Winter.

We are microcosms of nature and energetic beings animated by breath.  Consider this, each breath is keeping you alive.  We need both the inhalation AND the exhalation, the life giving breath and the clearing release which creates more space for the next breath.

What Can You Release in Order to Create?

Now as you continue to breath deeply, let’s see how we can relate to the other aspects of ourselves.  What can we let go of?  What can we let rest in the darkness or even die away in order to make space for something more new, more healthy, or even more exciting?

Feel the full volume of the body pulsing with breath.  Feel it’s fullness, emptiness, and the flow in between.  Consider the health of your body and as you ask this question, see what comes up in this space:

“What habits can I let go of that will help my body be more healthy and vibrant?”

Sense the answer in your body.

Now connect in with your heart, your capacity to love and relate to others.  Some relationships served a purpose in the past, but are no longer helpful. Ask yourself the following, or change the wording to fit what you would like to create in your heart instead:

“What relationships can I let go of in order to feel more emotionally spacious and loving.” 

Watch the movement of the mind…

The mind can be the most challenging to shift. Many people are wired for self-criticism and negativity that their belief systems are very limited. Once your open to changing your beliefs, you have the greatest potential to create more happiness in your life. Ask yourself:

“What habits or beliefs can I let go of, can I let die, in order to experience more clarity of mind?”

Give yourself some time to let any thoughts bubble to the surface in answer to this question.

Letting go of the previous attachments in the body, heart, and mind may get you closer to spiritual connection. To explore further, you can ask yourself:

“What can I let go of to experience a deeper sense of myself, to connect with spirit”

Feel into your wholeness.  Notice the warmth inside you, imagining a spark of hope in the heart that grows to a flame, and then to beams of light radiating out of your body in every direction.

Remember that this light sprung from darkness. We needed to let go and experience a symbolic death to some aspects of our lives in order to rebirth new experiences. We needed to visit the past and make peace with it in order to imagine new possibilities for the future.

Slowly Widen Your Awareness

Return your awareness to the breath moving through the central channel of the body.

Open up your ears to what you hear, notice what you’re tasting, smelling, and feeling against your skin.  Finally, gently open your eyes.

Take some time here to make sure your attention is balanced, inside and out.  Write down anything that came up for you during this meditation.  This is a special time for reflection, but of course this is appropriate to do anytime of the year, not just the Winter Solstice. You can repeat this simple meditation practice whenever you’re feeling stuck and that you need to make a major shift in one layer of your being. When we meditate, we’re tapping into our innate wisdom that’s beyond the mind’s comprehension. It’s this place where we receive the most helpful guidance for living a joyful life.

Did you enjoy this meditation? Do you already meditate? Is it for relaxation or to receive guidance or other motivation? I’d love to know about it in the comments!

When you think about strength training (or weight lifting), images of body builders or over-enthusiastic CrossFit athletes may come to mind.  For women especially, it may seem that this type of training is not how you’d like to achieve overall wellness.  However, once you recognize that there are many different approaches and surprising benefits of strength training, you may quickly change your mind!

It has taken me a lifetime to realize that this is one of the best ways for me to care for my body and mind, and has made me confront some stubborn beliefs that I know others hold as well.  Here’s a helpful list of reasons why I’ve been lifting weights as my main form of exercise lately and why I think you should too!

5 Surprising Benefits of Strength Training

1. Boosts Metabolism for Long Periods of Time

A slower metabolism is what we blame for the pesky weight gain that many of us experience as we age.

There are many reasons why metabolism decreases and our bodies become less efficient at burning calories and stored energy (fat), and why it’s different from person to person.  Yes, genes play a role to some degree, but it’s small.  Diet and lifestyle patterns influence our metabolic rate much more.

Extended periods of stress, high carbohydrate diets, eating too many processed foods, inactivity, and being exposed to environmental toxins can all lower your metabolic rate, increase fat stores, and exacerbate certain diseases like diabetes and hypothyroidism.

This is good news though, because it means that we’re not a victim to our metabolic rate and are capable of controlling it (and prevent certain diseases)!  Exercising regularly is essential to regulating metabolism, especially resistance exercises.

With cardio exercises like running, cycling, or swimming, your metabolism is increased during the activity, but quickly moves down to it’s resting rate.

Lifting weights, on the other hand, can keep your metabolism revving for several hours and even days after you finish!  The reason for this is that strength training challenges your body so much that it needs greater time to recover.  But as long as your careful with form and you don’t harm your joints, this is a good stress that actually makes you not only stronger, but more efficient with burning fat as energy.

2. Provides Stability and Safety as We Age

A few months ago in a tennis clinic, I pulled a muscle for the first time in my life.   My calf muscle snapped and spasmed after I made a simple lunge for the ball.  It made me realize that even though I consider myself fairly active, I apparently had a muscular imbalance that left my calf vulnerable.

That’s the point where I really started spending more time in the gym doing heavy squats and weighted lunges to condition my leg muscles equally.  As an outcall Acupuncturist (hauling a massage table around town) and Yoga Instructor, strength training is ensuring that my body will be able to last as I care for others in the community.

Whether you need to keep your body conditioned for your job or sport, it’s still essential you build muscle as you age since sarcopenia is inevitable.  In addition to eating more protein, as advocated by Functional medicine practitioner Gabrielle Lyon,  lifting weights will also help you maintain muscle mass.  You’ll spend more time enjoying fun activities and less time worrying that you’ll fall and decline in health.

3.  Improves Your Mood and Mental Health

Like all forms of exercise, strength training releases endorphins which can drastically improve our mood.  However, there are studies that now show resistance training is actually more effective than aerobic exercise in supporting the management of mental-emotional issues such as anxiety, which is a growing concern in our country.

4.  Challenges Body Ideals and Fixed Beliefs

What do you think of people who lift weights?  Do you make assumptions about their interests, intelligence, and sexual preference?  I’m calling this out because I know for a fact that many people have unkind thoughts and weird assumptions about other people that they feel threatened by.

I wrote about my body image issues and other people’s assumptions in How To Be Thankful For Your Body As It Is.  This is the main reason why I’d always been afraid to do a lot of weight training.  I was already short and stocky – not the “ideal” body shape for a woman – and I didn’t want to move even further away from being “feminine”.  I’m over it now though.  This is not something I believe anymore!

Women, if you want to be a stronger force in the world, I feel like tapping into your physical strength will help you feel even more powerful.  Gone are the days where we need to be soft-spoken, demure, and feel like we need to look smaller than men.  Let’s be strong alongside men!

All bodies are beautiful whether we’re large or small.  Strength is more about function, the body’s ability to confront challenges.  I may look bigger than most as I find the perfect about of strength to sustain my fun & active life.

I’m not afraid to look strong!  Are you?

5. Increases Self-esteem And Confidence.

As you start your strength training journey, you’ll need to overcome a few things I already mentioned:

• Worry about hurting yourself
• Concern for what other people think about you
• Intimidating gym equipment

Once you get over these though, a new degree of confidence is going to emerge.  You’ll feel that you’re not only more physically capable to play sports, carry heavy objects, and such, but that your stronger inside.

Strengthening your body will also strengthen your character.  It will strengthen your resolve to stick to a program for your benefit and for the people who rely on you.

You’ll become a confident role model for those you share your life with.

How to Start a Weight Training Program

Are you interested in strength training but don’t know where to start?

Getting personal training at the gym is a good place to begin to make sure you’re doing the exercises correctly.

Once you become accustomed to dumbbells, barbells, cables, and kettle balls, you may want to start looking at magazines and videos for inspiration.  Right now I’m loving the content on YouTube from MegSquats, BodyBuilding.com, and Kat Musni Fitness.

I hope learning these benefits of strength training has peaked your interest in giving it a try!

Do you incorporate strength training into your exercise program?  How has it worked for you?  Please let us know in the comments!

Want to release stress, dissolve tension, and spark your creative juices?  Float therapy in a sensory deprivation tank can bring you all of that as well as deep peace of mind!  I highly recommend it and here’s why…

Float therapy has been popularized by athletes, celebrities, and other influencers who want to condition both their bodies and their minds.  This is something we all can be striving for though!

Yes, there are several modalities that can do that too: the mindful movement of Yoga, the energetics of Taichi or Qigong, skilled massage, and of course Meditation.  However, these methods are not attractive or accessible for everyone (like my dear husband!).   I believe floating is a happy medium, where most people can experience peace without feeling like they need to learn special skills.

What is Float Therapy?

I had a vague idea of what floating was when Anna from Insight Float invited me to try out their services.  I knew it involved two of my favorite things – water and relaxation – so of course I quickly accepted!

When booking my appointment on the website, I learned that Insight Float has two different sized tanks.  Each of them provide two very different experiences.  Rumi, the larger, custom-made one, is best for pregnant women and athletic recovery.  Lilly Pad, the standard tank, is best for people who want to feel more grounded and is best for those experiencing anxiety.  I decided to book Rumi, just to make sure I had enough space to move.

At my appointment, I was warmly welcomed by Sarah.  She gave me a thorough 10 minute orientation about the floating experience that quickly turned my fear into fascination.

The float tanks are filled with 10 inches of body-temperature water, in which 1200 lbs. of epsom salts have been dissolved. The salt water matches the pressure inside the body, allowing one to float and feel perfectly balanced.

My Experience with Sensory Deprivation

I entered the water with nothing on.  My legs effortlessly floated up, allowing me to rest back suspended by the warm water.  I had brought in a floating light, but turned it off after a few minutes once I started relaxing.

The sound of my breath was amplified in the silent space.  I stretched out my inhalations and doubled the length of my exhalations, making a conscious effort to let go of tension. 

I became distracted as I started noticing pain in my upper back and neck.  With my arms above my head, the tightness in between my shoulder blades quickly dissolved, but the pain in my neck became more pronounced and pinpointed.  For about 10 minutes I fidgeted, massaged, and wondered if I’d ever get comfortable (not unlike my struggle with seated meditation!) 

There was a shift when I realized I was spending too much time focusing on discomfort. I was saying to myself, “this would be perfect if only I didn’t have this pain in my neck.” Once I acknowledge this, I went back to my breath, knowing that I could still appreciate this simple moment regardless of tension. I don’t know how much time had passed, but when I brought awareness back to my neck, there was no more pain!

From that moment on, which was about 30 minutes into my session, I slipped into the deepest meditation since before I had my son (back when I’d go on silent 5-day retreats!).

Soft music ended my session.  As I sat up, I almost started to cry.  I had tapped into something really big here, not just for myself, but for my family, friends, and clients.  I wanted everyone to know about this therapy and it’s possibilities for healing!

Benefits of Float Therapy

I felt grounded, clear, and confident for days after my first float therapy session. There are even more benefits of floating than what I experienced though! Here’s a list of possible effects that sensory deprivation in a float tank can create:

• Clarity of mind
• Reduced pain and inflammation
• Relaxed muscles
• Balanced emotions & improved mood
• Flow of creative thoughts
• Relief from pregnancy symptoms (swelling, pain, agitation, etc.)
• Clear skin
• Regulation of blood pressure
• Improved immunity
• Deeper sleep

What do you think?  Are you up for trying float therapy too?  I’d love to hear about your experience once you do!  Please let us all know in the comments.

Well wishes to you…

With my work-life centered around health and wellness, this is a question that I ponder often.

Health is not just normal range vital signs, Body Mass Index, and blood tests.   Sure, physical exams with your Medical Doctor are important to rule out serious conditions! But even The Center for Disease Control (CDC) and World Health Organization (WHO) define health broadly as “a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not just the absence of sickness or frailty.“

Are You Really “Well”?

“Well-being” has more to do with how one feels and less about a number on some test. But I would also challenge that it’s not simply a personal perspective. I’m often surprised that some people conclude they are healthy when it’s a fact that they are sick often or suffer with chronic conditions like allergies, eczema, colitis, asthma, or are in constant pain.

For some people, “well-being” could be an acceptance of these chronic issues. They are so common in our culture, they don’t stand out as being abnormal.  Some people don’t realize their condition can be improved, which may increase their acceptance of it. Or, there might be a reluctance to acknowledge poor health if major lifestyle changes are necessary.

Wellness is something that we must always be striving for.  This is especially true when we’re challenged with so many social and environmental factors that threaten our holistic health.

Wellness is Not Perfection

Below are the markers that I look for when assessing health, besides what your medical doctor would tell you. And no, I am not in perfect health either. I’m an Acupuncturist with a thyroid disease in remission and a Yoga Teacher who is technically overweight (emotional eating is definitely involved!).

Even though I’m very comfortable in my skin, I’m not resigned to settle where I am. I’m constantly moving toward being the healthiest version of myself so I can share my solutions with others who strive to do the same.

Indications of Good Physical Health

• Clear skin – Acne and rashes often indicate hormonal imbalance and point to poor gut health and possible food intolerance as the culprit.
• Daily well-formed bowel movements – Again, we look at poor gut health when stools are either too hard & infrequent, or too loose.
• Good muscle tone – Skinny does not equal healthy!  Having a low BMI does not mean that you’re in ideal physical shape. In addition to a lower fat percentage, having good muscle tone is important to support the joints in your spine and limbs so you maintain good posture and stay free of injury as you age.
• Flexible joints – Being able to sit on the floor comfortably and touch your toes from a standing position are good indicators of sufficient flexibility.
• Having 2 or less colds/year without any secondary infections – If you’re constantly getting sick or you’re ending up with ear infections, sinus infections, bronchitis, or pneumonia after catching a cold or flu, then there is much room for improving your immunity (gut health) through a better diet, nutritional supplementation, detoxifying your body, and managing stress.
• Sound sleep – Being able to fall asleep easily and stay asleep is not just a good indicator of physical health, but mental & emotional well-being too. Physical tension, hormonal issues, and indigestion can keep you awake, but so can pensiveness, anger, and regret.
• Physical ease – Pain is always an indication of inflammation and that your body needs help. In Chinese Medicine, pain is the result of Qi (life energy) and Blood stagnation, that can be caused by injury, muscle imbalance, inappropriate diet, stress, too much/too little activity, and much more…
• Regular menstrual cycles – Absence of flow, scanty flow, heavy flow, short cycles (less than 25 days), long cycles (more than 31 days), and pain all indicate a disharmony from a Traditional Chinese Medical perspective.  A regular menstrual cycle and proper egg development are responsible for fertility, so extremely important indicators of health.

Indications of Good Emotional Health

• Resilience – This is harder for kids and definitely comes with maturity. Being emotionally resilient means that you bounce back quickly when challenged by difficult circumstances & stressful situations.
• Compassion and empathy – Can you understand and feel the pain of others? Can you put yourself in their shoes?
• Emotional expression – We can express our feelings to resolve conflict and process emotions. At the same time we don’t dump our feelings on people when it’s not necessary or welcome. The appropriateness of emotional expression in situations is what makes it healthy or not.
• Gratitude and forgiveness – Both of these feelings help us appreciate our life and also help us to move on and build hope about the future.

Indications of Good Mental Health

• Focus – Are you able to organize your mind and follow through on tasks without overwhelm?
• Perspective – It’s important to see a situation from another perspective and understand someone else’s point of view.
• Ability to establish new beliefs – Rigid thinking can lead to cynicism, depression, antisocial behavior, and poor health in general. It’s healthy to have an open mind and consider new possibilities. We should be able to back off or change course when we notice that a certain activity/habit is negatively affecting our health and relationships with others.

We all have something we can be working on to move toward better health. All of the indicators on this list can be improved. 

Words have power! They can inspire us and lift us up. They can shame us and bring us down. Yet even though most of us acknowledge the influence of words, we don’t realize how our simple every-day speech can affect the connection to ourself and others. When we speak mindfully with the intention to relate, we tap into our natural, compassionate state of being, helping us become a more loving parent, friend, partner, and human-being.

Why I Started To Speak More Lovingly

For the longest time, my negative way of speaking was influenced by my family and social circles. I was sarcastic, cynical, and would say things I didn’t really mean to be funny and interesting.

I started to become more mindful of speaking in a positive manner in massage school. We learned how to speak to clients in a way that made them feel supported. We also learned how to speak about ourselves in a more loving way. Our instructor warned us seriously, “Be careful, your body believes everything you say!”

It was the first time I considered the impact my own words had on self-esteem and physical manifestation of our thoughts. Never again did I complain about a “bad” back or other body part that was simply sending pain signals to the brain in it’s own language. I embraced the idea that I should be talking to and about my body in a positive manner so that it could heal.

Still, I had much more room to go in speaking gently. Several years later at the end of a Yoga class, one of my students came up to me and we were talking about Chinese Medicine school (which I was in the middle of). I must have been talking about a test and I said something like, “I’m not going to kill myself over it”. The student’s expression turned to one of horror and she said, “nothing is worth killing yourself over”. Of course I was kidding, but she reflected back to me that it wasn’t funny. To some people this could be very disturbing. And it made a very deep impression on me because I realized that I was supposed to be modeling love & peace for my students and I wasn’t quite there.

Framework for Speaking Positively: Right Speech and Non-violent Communication

When I made the intention to speak more mindfully, I turned my attention to my meditation practice. I also immersed myself in the Buddhism classes at Insight Meditation Center.

Later on when I became a parent, I learned more about Non-Violent Communication which is very similar (but without the religious connotation, so might be more comfortable with some people although I feel that Buddhism is a philosophy for living peacefully, not a religion!) The Attachment Parenting play group we occasionally attended used NVC as a means to connect deeply with the kids and build relationships among the parents. Since I had the background in Right Speech, NVC was not much of a stretch. I’ve done my best to adhere to it’s guidelines ever since.

I was lucky to already be familiar with these concepts, but they are certainly not mainstream. Here’s more information about each so you can decide if either is intriguing and how to apply some of the simple principles.

Right Speech

Right Speech is one of the moral disciplines of the Eight-fold Path in Buddhism and includes these 4 aspects:

1. No false speech (lies)

2. Do not slander or discredit others

3. Abstain from abusive language

4. No idle talk or gossiping

It supports the saying we’ve all heard:

“If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all!”

When one practices Right Speech, we speak honestly and are more authentic in our communication. We mindfully promote harmony and use language to lesson anger and tension in our social groups.

Practicing Right Speech is not easy, especially in this age of social media and with an inflamed political atmosphere.

In Right Speech From the Buddhist Eightfold Path, the author writes:

“Sometimes people justify harsh speech because they are speaking on behalf of a worthy cause. Ultimately, stirring up acrimony is planting karmic seeds that will hurt the cause we think we’re fighting for.

When you live in a world of acrimonious speech, practice of Right Speech requires Right Effort (another tenet on The Path) and sometimes even courage. But it is an essential part of the Buddhist path.”

Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

The Center for Nonviolent Communication is a good place to begin your education on this practice. They have many helpful articles, resources, and even have a training program for those who feel called to share this training with others. NVC was created by Marshall B. Rosenberg in response to the increasing violence he’s observed in our culture. Basically, practicing NVC consists of these four components (these are taken directly from the website):

1. Observation: Observation without evaluation consists of noticing concrete things and actions around us. We learn to distinguish between judgment and what we sense in the present moment, and to simply observe what is there.

2. Feeling: When we notice things around us, we inevitably experience varying emotions and physical sensations in each particular moment. Here, distinguishing feelings from thoughts is an essential step to the NVC process.

3. Needs: All individuals have needs and values that sustain and enrich their lives. When those needs are met, we experience comfortable feelings, like happiness or peacefulness, and when they are not, we experience uncomfortable feelings, like frustration. Understanding that we, as well as those around us, have these needs is perhaps the most important step in learning to practice NVC and to live empathically.

4. Request: To make clear and present requests is crucial to NVC’s transformative mission. When we learn to request concrete actions that can be carried out in the present moment, we begin to find ways to cooperatively and creatively ensure that everyone’s needs are met.

If you’re wanting to speak more mindfully, it needs to be a conscious shift you make in the heart first, then the mind. Know that it will take some time and don’t feel too bad if you regress back to old patterns of communication. You’re doing your best and that’s what matters most. I still yell at my son everyday, but it’s the practice of Right Speech and NVC that I’m engaging with 95% of the time that makes it much easier for us to forgive each other and reconnect. I hope it does the same for you and all of your relationships.

Have you practiced mindful speech? How has it worked for you? I’d love to know in the comments!

Want to achieve New Year success in business, parenting, health, home-tending, or life in general? Me too! What I’ve learned from several life-coach gurus is that you can accomplish anything as long as you follow a few key steps. Read on to learn how to create achievable goals for the New Year!

How To Create Achievable New Year Goals

1. Get quiet and take some time to reflect.

You don’t need to spend hours in seated meditation, but it is important that you find some way to detach from external distractions so you can listen to your heart and reason with your mind. Take a bath, go for a walk without your device, or just sit in the morning sun with some tea, a pencil, and paper. In quiet solitude you’ll allow space for your inner voice and creativity to speak.

2. Be grateful for everything that happened the previous year and look forward to the future.

Don’t get caught up in the things that made last year challenging. It’s important to acknowledge challenges and be grateful for them since you now have a greater vantage point to see how to make changes. This challenge had to happen so that you can achieve amazing things in the future.

3. Use tools to guide you.

If you’re new to goal-setting, it’s a good idea to use a planner or journal that will guide you. Using a planner should keep you on track and inspire you. I love my Brilliant Life Planner which is fabulous for entrepreneurs.

Goals should be specific, measurable, attainable, and have a time limit to them. It’s also important to not make goals that just solve problems. If you do that, you’re only creating tasks to perform, not dreams to achieve.

4. Ask yourself thought provoking questions.

Ange Peters, owner of Hol:Fit, Health Coach and Double Diamond (= super successful person) in dōTERRA shares these questions to help you reflect on last year and plan for the New year.

• What is the 1 word that can describe last year?

• What were the highlights?

• How did you grow the most? (This doesn’t need to be something you achieved, but even a lesson learned from failure.)

• Who inspired your growth the most?

• Who drained you the most?

• What is one area you need help with, that you might be able to delegate or hire out?

• What is one area you need to develop in, that requires more education and skill?

• What is one area that is not working for you, that you may need to reduce time in or let go completely?

5. Create a Spacious and Supportive Environment

In a recent Rachel Hollis podcast she said, “you are a combination of the 5 people you spend the most time with”.

Hmm, think about that. If you resonate with that statement, it may be time to re-evaluate your social circle. You’re more likely to achieve your goals if you’re hanging around with supportive people and those who actually have qualities that you’re wanting to emulate. Spend time with friends who are smarter than you, more organized than you, in better shape than you, are more patient parents than you, or whatever it is you’re trying to achieve.

Ms. Hollis also points out that your physical space needs to be supportive. A cluttered car & home is indicative of a cluttered mind. They are also very distracting. Before goal setting, it would be a good idea to clean the house or at least your workspace. Then create the intention to maintain this supportive environment as you nurture your dreams.

I hope that these prompts & resources help you get excited about the life you’re trying to create! If you have any bits of advice to add, or any questions about how to begin, please let us know in the comments!

Almost everyone knows the life-changing benefits of meditation, but putting it into practice can still be challenging. People often think that it needs to be perfect and give up way too easily. Over decades of teaching it, I’ve heard all the excuses.

“I can’t clear my mind”

“I can’t sit comfortably”

“I can’t sit still”

“I’m distracted by my family”

The most common excuse by far is…

“I don’t have enough time”

You know what? I don’t have a lot of time either! But I do manage to prioritize meditation everyday. It just takes on a different form from the disciplined seated practice most people assume you need to do for it to be “real meditation”.

While a 20 minute seated practice upon rising is what starts my day off best, there are some days, like today, where that just wasn’t possible. I had to get out the door quick to teach a yoga class. Of course I couldn’t enter the room with frantic energy. I needed to ground, to focus my mind, and give myself space to let my creative sequencing juices flow. How did I do this from the car to the class?

WALKING MEDITATION

That’s right. You can quiet your mind with the simple movement you do every single day as you transition from one space to the next.

This simple 3-minute walking meditation helped me teach one of my best classes. I know walking meditation can help you as well when you need to anchor fully into the present moment.

The technique is super easy.

1. Focus on the sensation of each foot, one at a time, connecting with the ground from heel to toe. Over and over, heel-arch-toe, heel-arch-toe, heel-arch-toe…

2. You can do this at any pace, but most people can focus easier the slower you go.

3. You’re not clearing the mind, you’re focusing the mind. We brush off distracting thoughts that are not focused on what you’re doing in the present moment, which is simply walking on the earth.

4. You can strengthen your mind even more by using your imagination to ground your energy. Imagine that you’re walking through mud, or that you’re rooted underneath the earth and these roots are traveling with you.

I invite you to try this method! I promise it will help you prepare your mind for your daily activities. Brilliance lives in the present moment – not from time spent imagining what might happen in the future.

Certainly time spent in seated meditation with help you drop into a meditative state quicker when you need to do walking meditation instead. Please click here to browse my free guided meditations to help you along.

Namasté

It’s a fact that we have loads of information coming at us from the external world, more than any other time in history. And if you’re an intellectual being, getting wrapped up in thoughts (regardless of whether they’re positive or negative, necessary or not) can keep you from resting or progressing.

Are you interested in developing a home yoga practice?  I have some fabulous home yoga resources in this post that will get you going!

Doing yoga at home does not mean you need to go it alone. Certainly, you’ll want to listen to your body to guide the focus in your practice. Eventually, you can sequence the entire session by yourself. In the meantime, there are plenty of resources to get you started.

Below are the resources I turn to when I’m needing more guidance, inspiration, ideas, and focused attention at home.

Home Yoga Resources

1. Yoga Practice Books

If you found this article helpful, please let us know in the comments! Also feel free to ask ANY questions about how to get started with your personal home yoga practice.